My 5 yr old nephew has a six pack!!! What the hell??? Last year & the years preceding he was a pudgy, pot-bellied, Fatty McFat-Fat & now, SIX PACK!! The boy eats all the time!! From everyone’s plate!! SIX PACK!!! As you may be able to tell this has annoyed me beyond reason. I’m a grown man. I shouldn’t hate on my nephew whom I love beyond words & for whom i would gladly dive in front of a bullet for. Well I WOULD have but the bullet would probably go through me & ricochet of his rock hard abs!! Ok, rant over. The truth is I’m really mad at myself for letting myself go. I’m not obese or anything but my six pack is buried beneath a protective layer of fat & there’s a definite man-boobage situation I’m having issues with. My problem is I love food, much like my nephew, but hate exercise, very much unlike my nephew!! The boy can’t sit still. Ever!! In fact the only time he isn’t moving is when he’s eating smh!! Me on the other hand…… I am definitely a lot more active than i have been in ages & I’m starting to look & feel a lot healthier. The progress however is slower than I would like it to be. & if I’m honest that’s on me. So I could keep comparing myself to a 5 year old who’s metabolism is always in overdrive – & who’s FIVE – or just be a man & a) step up & change my habits & b) accept that I’m not as fit as I used to be but i can be eventually. I guess it’s human nature to compare yourself to other people you think you’re in the same situation with. As ridiculous as it sounds I think I subconsciously took comfort from seeing my nephew eat everything & be a little chunky. Like uncle, like nephew. The reality is I was looking to validate my shortcomings. This experience made me think about other aspects in my life where I do the same thing & the revelation scared me. It’s so easy to compromise what you believe in or what you value for a comfortable stress-free life. Knowing that someone else is falling short in the same area can make you feel less motivated to sort yourself out. It’s like in school when you haven’t done your homework & you ask everyone else if they have, hoping you’re not in trouble alone. When it comes time to pay for it however, you pay alone. “So what do we do, Bo??” Well dear readers, I have no idea!! Actually the more accurate response is I have no idea what YOU should do. I can tell you what seems to be working for me though. Firstly, I’ve accepted that I am human & I will invariably make a LOT of mistakes in EVERYTHING. But I’ve also accepted that that’s OK, provided I learn from my mistakes & actively do something to actually change. E.g. eat properly & workout more. Secondly, I’ve stopped comparing myself to people that either make me feel bad about myself or make me feel OK about not being the best i can be. It’s important to keep good company. All my friends who are in the same boat as me want to get out of the damn boat!! Seeing that motivates me. & thirdly, I aspire for perfection knowing full well that it is a futile endeavour. There’s only ever been one perfect being & they nailed Him to a tree. Still, shoot for the stars & land on the moon right? Or something along those lines!!
Aight that’s me done!! God bless!!!
P.S. Shout out to my beautiful, talented, intelligent girlfriend for becoming the 1st person in her whole family to earn a degree!! She graduated this week & wore the hell out of that gown!! Couldn’t be prouder or more in love right now!! U are now free to gag &/or throw up into your nearest receptile